Sunday, June 29, 2008

It's a Lovely Day in the Neighborhood

A few words about friends:

(1) I am extremely loyal. Absurdly so, even when friends don't return my calls, alienate my other friends, treat me like a therapist, kick me in the ribs, etc.

(2) As I get older, it occurs to me that I should be spending less of my effort in Oaksian "hanging out" and more time focusing on one "special friend" than desiring a circle of people around me. (Do I find this the ideal because I have a large family of siblings that I enjoy?)

(3) I need to learn how to make friends, not just acquaintances. I give precedent to those "old friends" without ever keeping up with the people I met in last year's ward, for example.

(4) Breaking-up with friends is hard. You can't just break up--one side just peters away from the other side. Would a "state of the relationship" or DTR-type speech make it easier to just peel away a friend who is damaging and/or time-draining? How do you break up with someone that you don't enjoy spending time with besides just ignore them?

Not being a Jedi master of relationship relationships, this friend relationship thing seems pretty hard. Wish I had learned this in 3rd grade.

1 comment:

Makayla said...

I really wish I knew how to respond to this. I've written and deleted about four (some funny, some serious) and can't decide. :(